At times, you meet someone and there’s an instant connect. Maybe it’s the aura of the person and not the designation she holds. You may not end up being the best of buddies (meeting every week, chatting on phone and all that jazz) but yet there’s something karmic that keeps you hooked.
Tanvi Trivedi is a leading Entertainment journalist working for India’s leading newspaper. Her stories seem to have enthralled most celebrities who constantly are vying for that exclusive story from her. Surely a woman of substance with a perfect mind of her own, Tanvi has stood tall always despite all the adversities and emerged as a winner.
Over to Tanvi, her inspirational words will surely charge you up.
What do you consider the main achievements in your life?
I am not following any gender stereotype but what I am highlighting is a big achievement. The fact that I single-handedly look after my family and take over all responsibilities in an unconditional manner is my achievement.
Secondly I feel the ability to become versatile writer is another milestone for me. Though my forte involves writing on films and television, I can interview a Shoaib Akhtar with equal finesse. So, I feel that my versatility in my career is my biggest achievement.
Thirdly, I feel I was not so resilient. I feel the determination to keep walking silently towards my work and goals. To relocate to Mumbai and making a life of my own is a commendable task for sure for most women.
What qualities do Women need to imbibe within themselves to be more Empowered and successful in life?
I feel a woman needs to be patient, determined and continuously positive with whatever the odds that come her way. I am yet to achieve my goals but a successful woman needs to be well-informed, networked and be extremely patient without giving in to any limitations surrounding her personality.
What drives you to be at the Top of your Game? What are your success strategies?
I feel you should not get competitive. The minute you start doing what others are doing….you are bringing yourself down. In order to be top of your game, you should effectively communicate, have a clarity of mind and if you have a certain wish in mind, slowly but regularly pursue it. Also, seeking what others get sometimes takes you off your focus. One more important strategy is to effectively manage people. If you are a good administrator, effectively delegate things and have ideas then you rule the world.
Have you dealt with failure? If so, how did you overcome it and resurge when all the chips were down?
I think when the chips are down, you have to live with it, deal with it and survive it. You do get depressed and give up, but then as many celebs say ‘Don’t be shy to take help’.
My mantra when the chips are down is to just live with it and wait for better times to unfold. Everyone goes through failure but sometimes you should stop asking questions as to why it happened to you. Self-pity is the worthless emotion you can ever get into. Just keep to yourself, focus on the NOW and count your blessings, Life’s journey will be more pleasurable and successful.
It is important for us to recognize the power of men in supporting women. Is there a man who has played an instrumental role in your personal growth and success? Who are they and how did they influence you?
My father imbibed the most important habit – to read and empower myself. He also taught me kindness and generosity. He played an important role in teaching these basic human qualities which sound very simple but believe me, they are very essential in becoming a good human being. He taught me tolerance and though I am still learning.
I feel it is important to choose your fights and that’s what I learnt from him. Also, he has supported me when my chips were down and stood by me.
Which 3 Indian women have inspired you in your life and why?
I think my mother is an inspiration and guess for many people it would be their mother. I am yet to come across such selfless people in life. Parents give away 20 years of their lives in upbringing their children the best way they can, that’s a huge amount of time.
My yoga teacher who taught me meditation and yoga has been another inspiration. In addition the power to live in the now and enjoy the life around me has made me more sorted.
And my music teacher – she is single and has lived a life of dignity.
Which causes related to Women would you like to support?
I feel that there should be a club for bright, creative, 35 plus single women and men too. It is no cause but feel that there should be a place where they are not meant to feel that marriage is mandatory and they don’t have to always roam around with their friends who are couples and have children. There should be interesting conversations and ideas and the fact that they are also part of the social strata.
I would like to contribute to the education of young women. Empower them to speak their mind and become self-sufficient.
I would love to empower the young women who are earning their livelihood in small ways (sewing, taking care of chappals at temples, working in homes). We need to help such women enjoy the simple things in life which they haven’t yet experienced.
3 tips to Women to be successful in life.
Self- sufficient. Hard work. Patience and tolerance.
Your motto for Women Empowerment
Confidence and belief that you too can live a good life.